The character traits that women find attractive

By: Hugh Wilson

Women are attracted to your personality as much as your body. But what, exactly, are they looking for?

We all know what women want in men, right? They want a muscular body (or
was it a slender one?). They want long legs (or was it arms?). They
want blonde hair (or was it black?).

OK, maybe we don't know for certain, but what we can be sure of is that
it's not just about looks and physique. In fact, study after study has
shown that, while women do value looks to some extent, they don't
prioritise them in the way men do.

Instead, women place a higher emphasis on personality, and the character
traits that show you're a good catch. And that's true for short-term
flings as well as long-term relationships. So here are the personality
traits that women go for and how you can show them off.

Kindness
Think nice guys finish last? Think again.

A study published in the British Journal of Psychology found that women
hunting for dates viewed kindness and generosity as a priority.

Over 300 volunteers were shown dating profiles, some of which had been
adjusted to suggest that the subjects were altruistic. For example, some
of the profiles included lines about helping others or volunteering.

Overwhelmingly, the women showed a preference for more altruistic men.
"If a man is kind and generous towards others - even strangers - then
there's a good chance that he'd make a good and generous parent,"
explained Dr Pat Barclay from University of Guelph, Canada, who
conducted the study.

Confidence
It stands to reason that women are attracted to confident men.
Confidence is a sign of success, or at least potential. Confident men
can get a woman what she wants.

And a study published last year found that women are more sexually
attracted to brooding, proud, confident-looking men than their jollier
counterparts. In fact, they tended to find shiny happy blokes a bit of a
turn-off.

It could be that male displays of pride - even if that's only shown by
facial expression - suggest confidence and status, and women are
hardwired to look for high status men. Other studies have found that
smiling can be associated with a lack of dominance, and subservient men
are not likely to be high up the pecking order. So if you want to
attract women, make sure you're friendly, but don't stand around
grinning like a lunatic.

Humour
It's not just a cliché: a good sense of humour really can help in the dating stakes.

A study by the University of Northumbria revealed that women who find
men funny also consider them more intelligent and honest than their less
amusing counterparts. Men who wrote the funniest descriptions of
themselves for lonely heart ads were seen as brainier, more genuine and a
better bet for a long-term relationship, according to the research.

"The findings provide evidence that women use humour as an indication of
a guy's intelligence," said Kristofor McCarty, from Northumbria
University, who led the study.

"Intelligence is a very attractive quality as a clever man should be more able to provide resources for his offspring."

But put those cheesy chat-up lines away. The study also found that only
genuinely funny men could laugh a lady into bed. Bad gags were given the
thumbs down.

Self-delusion
OK, maybe self-delusion is the wrong term. Maybe we should say overblown self-confidence.

A study published in the journal Psychological Science found that
ordinary looking men often ended up with attractive women because of
sheer persistence and a mistaken belief in their own attractiveness.

The research, from the US, discovered that men could make up for their
lack of physical beauty by trying their luck with an increased number of
women. They may receive a lot of knock-backs, but they also have the
occasional success.

Of course, this self-delusion isn't an attractive trait in itself, but
it does lead ordinary looking men to at least try to charm women with
other traits, like their intelligence, wit and generosity. The only
lesson to be taken is that, whatever you look like, don't be put off by
rejection. The harder you try, the luckier you'll get.

Intelligence
If women prize humour as an indicator of intelligence, clearly intelligence must be a prized trait in men.

Other studies have confirmed that women are attracted to brains,
regardless of humour. For example, when a team from Elon University in
North Carolina showed female students videos of men performing athletic
and mental tasks and asked them to pick favourites, the women tended to
go for the most intelligent men.

In other words, it's worth bigging up your academic achievements
(subtly, of course - women don't like boasting) on a first date or even
on your internet dating profile, waxing lyrical about culture or society
(without hogging the conversation) or maybe just arming yourself with a
really good joke.

So there you have it. If you want to increase your chances of attracting
the women - or woman - of your dreams, science suggests that kindness,
confidence, humour and intelligence - along with perseverance - are the
keys to success.